For a large portion of my life, I thought I had all the right answers, that I knew everything needed to guarantee me a prosperous, healthy, satisfying, even (dare I say) perfect life. And when things didn't go according to plan, I assumed there was something I wasn't doing "quite right." That it was my fault that this perfect life hadn't happened to me yet. After all, I had been promised by my culture that if I lived my life according to certain precepts, then "it would come."But you know what? It's not true.
In my experience of life, "THE answer" does not exist. The reason I put "the" in all capitals is to emphasize this desire I've often had to access some kind of "ultimate truth." However, the problem with this mindset is that life is fluid. What is true and works for me one day may not work for me the next day. Why? Because I change. My life circumstances change, my health changes, my living environment changes, my job changes, my family changes ... everything is in flux.
I've heard before that the only constant in life is change. Trying to apply the same answer to change doesn't work for me. In my life, I've found the more willing I am to be open to different approaches rather than definitive answers, the more likely I am to find a space that works for me now.
At this actual point in my life, I realized that I had fallen back into that mindset of looking for that magic bullet, that perfect answer that would "fix" me forever. As soon as I saw that I was once again chasing the rainbow, I stopped.
And now I'm asking myself, "What is it that I need now, in this moment?"
I think some people are able to live their lives in a space of habit, going through the same motions day in and day out without running themselves into the ground. I am not one of those people. For my life to work, I need to be fluid and flexible. I need to inhabit my body and soul as they exist in the moment, not as they existed in a previous moment.
What about you? How do you approach change in your life?
